Mindful Everyday Moment: #75 when you feel heard
Some corners of the internet suggest that there are seven different types of listening:
- Informational - when you want to learn something, you'll use informational listening to understand and retain knowledge.
- Discriminative - this is the listening type that we're born with.
- Biased - biased listening is also known as selective listening.
- Sympathetic - this is driven by emotion.
- Comprehensive - this is used when we are trying to understand language.
- Empathic - which helps us see other people's perspectives
- Critical - which is needed when analyzing complex information
As someone who's studied and been certified in Conversational Intelligence®, we need to make listening less complex, just do it as Nike says, and lean into mindfulness to help.
For me, I like to make these simple and have just three categories - because three is the magic number.
- Listen to reply
- Listen to connect
- Listen to understand
But the key is paying attention to how it feels when you feel heard.
For you, where do you feel heard in your body? What emotions surface? When was the last time you felt listened to? Let me know. I'm curious.
Once we understand how it feels for us, we can ask others how it feels for them. This understanding can put us on a better listening pathway and more belonging.
Michael
If you want to share an everyday mindful moment, send it along, and I will include it in our list of 100.